Life in Yeshiva is supposed to be “Gan Eden”, the best years of our lives. Indeed, Tomchei Temimim is supposed to be the antidote to assimilation.
So why is it that so many Bochurim feel overwhelmed, unfulfilled and unmoved?
It is this challenge that Rabbi Mendel Itzinger, Mashpia in London Mesivta and Director of Igud Yeshivos Lubavitch attempts to address in his new book Chossid Yerei Shomayim Lamdon – The Three to Succeeding as a Bochur.
In the only book of its kind, written directly to the Bochur, in a clear and concise manner, Rabbi Itzinger addresses head on the purpose for studying in Yeshiva, its goals, and clearly maps out the path to achieving them.
“In my years of guiding Bochurim, I have often fielded complaints that they don’t feel successful,” he writes in the introduction. “The key challenge is that very, very, few Bochurim can actually describe what success means, and when I challenge them, I often get the same answer: “I’m not exactly sure”.
“Too many Bochurim it seems that the goal of Yeshiva is simply learning and learning, often spending hours on topics they don’t yet relate to or enjoy. Is it a wonder, then, that many Bochurim feel the way they do”?
“The main goal of Yeshiva is not learning,” Rabbi Itzinger fervently declares. “It is about developing a passion for Ruchanius and the tools to live a Ruchniyusdike passionate Yiddishe life”.
To help Bochurim become passionate about learning and start to love Yeshiva, it is imperative that we help them understand the what it does for their lives.
But in addition to defining the goal and purpose of Yeshiva, it is also necessary that a Bochur understand why those goals are important.
Let’s take learning as an example: although some Bochurim love every second of it, others become frustrated by the sheer number of hours spent learning each day. Some find learning challenging in general, while others find certain topics harder than others.
Whatever their personal challenge is, it can seem to Bochurim, that there is an uneven emphasis placed on learning and, for many, this is extremely hard. The frustration only magnifies their question, “Why do we spend so much time learning”?
This is just one of the questions that Rabbi Itzinger addresses in his book. Because knowing “why” helps a person become, and remain, motivated in what we do.
However, knowing “why” is not enough, because to succeed one also needs a clear vision on “how” to achieve said goals, in this book, Rabbi Itzinger maps out the path clearly, bringing these goals within the reach of every Bochur who wants to succeed.
The book unravels the answers to questions like, “How do we learn how to learn?” and “What is the path a Bochur needs to take to actually gain a love for Hashem?”
The book is now available in stores and at seforimdeals.com
DOWNLOAD: Excerpt of the book
I just read the excerpt and I am really looking forward to reading the entire book! This looks like a great read!
highly recommended
Thanks to this book my son is doing well in yeshiva. It literally saved his Yiddishkayt
Thank you thank you thank you
Can’t wait for his next book
Good luck
Reb Mendel, I humbly agree that your words are the utter truth especially today as our great Rebbe has quoted many of times “הנסיון הראה”. The writing is on the wall and irefutable. The passuk states ” גור’ בארץ הזאת’…” One can interprert these words to mean that which Chasdidus so often maintains: “גור” forms the acrostic: “גשמיות ורוחניות” . Our purpose in this world “בארץ הזאת” including bochurim who spend more than a half of their day בכותלי הישיבה is to transform גשמיות into its true essance which is רוחניות. Precisely this will open the doors for “everything” a… Read more »
Thanks for your great comment. You make very good points and h
Hopefully the yeshivas will pay attention and not throw out the slow learners or hold back the fast learners who are both tremendously bored in class.
where can i buy. enjoyed the sample very mcuh
Nobody is saying that chassidim shouldn’t learn. The point is a zeyere poshute vort- the most important thing a bochur can accomplish in yeshiva is learning to love hashem, torah and yiddishkeit. This will set the bochur up to marry and raise a family all pi torah und chassidus. I know many bochurim who learned in yeshiva and as soon as they were out, they found other interests. and I know of many bochurim that were never the strongest learners but they BH had good mashpiim who helped them find a passion and a love for yiddishkeit and are today… Read more »
As someone who has read the book, I would recommend you read it before passing judgment, as the book is clearly not advocating that a bochur not have a Koch in learning.
a refreshing unique perspective. thank you. much continued success.
I’m getting the feeling in the chabad world it doesn’t matter. My son was at a chabad school, he is very gifted but he was continuously held back learning wise in his class. Before he was excited to learn all there was but because it was going ahead of the class he was castigated for it. Back in the shtetl kids were allowed to learn at their own pace. Unfortunately the not good learners would only stay until they were old enough to help their families make a living. With the advent of the no-child left behind act, we now… Read more »
I have this book. A very clear and easy read. I highly recommend it to anyone who is looking for a fresh start.
You are correct that the Rebbe wanted all of us in lubavitch to learn,the author is not c”v negating that for one second. He is trying to create a passion for learning,and for chassidishkeit in general. Whether one acquires this through learning gemora,or Halacha,or chassidus,or something else…..he is trying g to give over an enthusiasm and love.
Great author, great book. Thank you for writing this informative sefer!
I believe I speak on behalf of many people when I say that we appreciate you addressing this matter.
Great book
which stores have it in Crown heights
grateful bochur
Does this book address the issue of the boys being thrown out left right and center simply because they can’t keep up? Does it adress the issue that if the the parents don’t pay up on the streets you go ? How about if he is struggling will there be support ? will someone actually sit one to one and help him with skills ? Will he even be given the chance and get his foot thru the door to begin with as so many bochorim are not being accepted in yeshivas . I’m sure this book is helpful but… Read more »
Definitely recommended for everyone!
Rabbi Itz is a real smart man!
Tysm!!!
Chazak v’amatz!
Great job!~
Just read the sample pages – can’t wait to buy the book!
TY for writing about this
This is how I felt in Yeshiva. Gemara, I have great difficulty following. Chassidus wasn’t easy having just woken up (I lived three minutes from yeshiva, and later I was in Morristown). What the yeshivas were learning often just wasn’t my thing. I like learning halacha, chumash, nach. At one point I wasn’t going to shiur, but that didn’t, chalila, mean I wasn’t learning. I was learning what I wanted to learn, but the Rosh Yeshiva told me “in our yeshiva you learn what we teach, otherwise you should go home”. He didn’t even preface it with a “while it’s… Read more »
As someone who struggled in Yeshivah, I’m happy to see that some Mashpiim aren’t opting for the classic “head in the sand” approach anymore.
Just bought mine, and looking forward to reading this.
thanks you so much for addressing these issues.
Great idea hatzlocho rabba
While I have not read the book, the Rebbe clearly wanted his chassidim to be lomdim….k,pshuto. Those who most succeeded in shlichus were shtegin in learning
It is sad that in our Yeshivos bachurim don’t get a passion for learning…to want to know Shas..Rambam…sales chelsie shulchan aruch….
Kiddush Shem Lubavitch…are those who can also demonstrate… az in Lubavitch Ken men lernen.
This path smells wrong……
2 days in a row such great news.
First chovevei torah adn now this.
Finally!!
Go Rabbi Itzinger, he is the best mashpia in lubavitch!
Finally some got it.
Thanks for sharing.
Hatzlacha Rabah