Seeing the decline in good marriages and the intense struggles experienced by couples, Rabbi Avraham and Goldie Plotkin use their expertise in counseling and their own long marriage to become marriage counselors. They are ready to share these 5 secrets to a good marriage that they have mined from the Torah.
Besides the excellent content of the video, just watching how they interact with each other in the process of giving this lecture is very instructive.
This presentation was given at the National Jewish Retreat. For more information, visit JRetreat.com.
his point exactly, you wont got to him to fix your car because you know he wont be able to fix it, and he wont be able to convince you he can because either it drives or not.. but psychological issues he can get away with letting you think he is giving you solid advise. yes a nice word from anyone is appreciated.
You are only partially right, as there is a huge difference between physical and psychological/social issues. True, for physical, hands on issues, you will always go to the professional who specializes in the physical issue, i.e. a mechanic for a car, or a dentist for a tooth. Psychological and social issues are in an entirely different, more abstract realm. Certain psychological issues are entirely in the hands of the professionals, such as schizophrenia, serious depression, ADD etc.., but certain issues are on the border of both, and one such issue is Shalom Bayis. Sometimes, a small word or a piece… Read more »
very nice but if you need a marriage counselor, go see a marriage counselor. I’ve seen many marriages messed up from so called rabbi marriage counselors who really know nothing about marriage counseling.
If your car broke you would go to a mechanic and if you have a toothache you would go to a dentist. same idea if you won’t trust a rabbi with your tooth why trust him with your marriage.
A rabbi is trained in one area, which is torah. In yeshivah he learned torah. His job is to answer questions on halacha and judiasm.
I remember they gave another fantastic class on the same topic, a must watch for every married couple!
(You can watch the other class in the link)
http://www.torahcafe.com/mrs-goldie-plotkin/king-solomon-e2-80-99s-seven-secrets-for-a-successful-marriage-video_ae1709535.html
There is a famous story about a couple who had Shalom Bayis. So, a friend asked the husband, “how do you do it?” He said, “Simple. When she’s home , she does what she wants. When I’m home, I do what she wants.”
But all jokes – except in this case, only partially aside. I think ideal Shalom Bayis results from both sides doing the best they can to please each other, according to the dictates of Torah.
wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!so nice…..