Often when we hear about domestic abuse, the picture that it connotes in our minds is of a shattered woman. Slowly, we are learning that the victim can be anyone – the well-dressed business owner, the engaging teacher, the meticulous accountant. Anyone!
And it might be a man. The yungerman who sits next to you in shul, your co-worker, your old chavrusa, or neighbor.
This phenomenon is less known. For a variety of reasons. But that doesn’t make it less real. Nor less painful for the man and his family.
“Overwhelmingly, discussions about Domestic Violence focus around the woman as victim. While much of the abuse is quite similar, no matter who is the one going through it, it might be perceived differently. The intimidation and threatening and yelling and belittling and crazy-making and even physical abuse does unfortunately happen to men as well. And if we are to talk about domestic abuse, we must address this area as well, ” states Mrs. Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad.
Join Lisa Twerski on a conference call about Men as Victims of Domestic Violence: How we define the term and why that matters.
The conversation will be followed by a Q&A on March 15, 2017 at 8:45 PM Eastern Time. To join, call 641-552-9123. Access code: 256965
You can send in your questions anonymously before, during and after the call to www.adaiad.org/ask-anonymous-question
This call is brought to the community by Crown Heights Jewish Community Council, Adai Ad and Shalom Taskforce. It is part of a series of workshops and education organized by the Crown Heights Jewish Community Council under a grant by the New York City Council Domestic Violence Initiative awarded by Council Member Matthieu Eugene.
Check Adai Ad’s website for upcoming calls and events at www.adaiad.org/events or recordings of past events at www.adaiad.org/past-events.
Upcoming events:
– Preparing for a Discussion with your rabbi about Shalom Bayis with Rabbi Shais Taub
– Helping the Kids from Abusive Homes with Miriam Gross, MAMFT
– Does the Mizbeach Cry when an Abusive Marriage Ends? with Rabbi YY Jacobson
Recent past events:
– Domestic Abuse & the Legal System with Erin Bistricer, staff attorney for Shalom Taskforce
– How you can Help a Loved One in an Abusive Marriage with Lisa Twerski, LCSW
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who on earth gave you that percentage?
Its about time…
I heard someone say that some men have stockholm syndrome because of their wives having personality disorder. not sure what that totally means but I think that it is high time that we are educated in these psychological deviances. Many people have no idea that whats happening to them is not healthy. I’d like to know more about it, and I’m pleased to know that the enlightenment is active and reaching our people.
I am certain that there actually are cases of men living in Gehennom because of an abusive/ unwell wife . But as the female (barely) survivor of years of emotional & verbal abuse, I know that my ex tells everyone that HE was the victim of MY abuse – which is beyond unbelievable. So, please be careful when “choosing sides” or giving sympathy. Most abusers, whether male or female, are untruthful master manipulators so be very cautious before you believe what you are told. Very important : it does not always “take two to tango” – one very vicious spouse… Read more »
Our men are under terrible pressure. They are under much stress. Women! men cannot handle too much at same time. Take care of your men! Do not take advantage of them! It is enough to bring in parnossoh which can be very stressful and help out a bit but not have the whole responsibility of also taking over, being up with the baby, bathing them, homework and putting them to sleep, doing car pool etc… Don’t be quick to ask them to do for you every little thing… AND FEED THEM HEALTHY! It’s your responsibility to make sure they have… Read more »
are child abuse- my parents were a team and one thing that was lain down was respect, , the screaming and yelling at me against me in front of the children was horrible, this is not torah, so as you can see the mind cannot asorb truth-l have tried
person and there fore abuse can be directed to them, it’s the unwell person isn’t interested in getting help, it makes life really difficult, it’s not always as it seems, l know my husband thinks he’s right, when it just isn’t the torah way and gee, l cannot tell you how hard life is, there more to it, both people gotta be willing to listen and changed, sometimes a holistic diet can make a world of differences-this doesn’t dawn on someone when the other side is acting crazy-l cannot stress this enough-nutrition makes a world of a differances!
So women are finally ready to admit that 90% of all abuse is directed at the husband?
Never thought I’d see the day…
This is waaaaay over due.
Thank you to the organizers.
Hopefully, women will also join this call to become more aware.
Thank u!