Hello, my name is Peri Markowitz, and I’m eighteen years old. I was recently zoche to get engaged to my chosson, whom I love very much, and our wedding is planned for the 20th of Shvat, b’ezras Hashem.
I grew up in a house of 12 children. My father worked mainly as a teacher but had many side jobs as well (cleaning shuls, for example) since that salary did not cover all expenses. My mother, even though she was busy taking care of a house full of children, tried to help lighten the burden of expenses by doing housework for people. Unfortunately, that didn’t last very long because she suffered a leg injury during pregnancy and since then she has not been able to work. So the modest income she was bringing in is no longer, and now our family has incurred even more expenses because of the treatments for her injury.
I have always tried to help as much as I could to bring home some money, especially recently. When I graduated from seminary I went to work in a daycare center in order to help cover my wedding expenses. Unfortunately though, I have nothing left because everything was used for current house expenses. Now my wedding is getting closer and I don’t know where we will get the money even for the minimal expenses of the wedding! For my wedding dress, house supplies, for the hall and the modest orchestra, for the catering and the waiters…etc. Even the basics add up to huge amounts. I keep believing that everything will be good and that Hashem will help…
Last week my father spoke with the rabbi to invite him to be misader kedushin at the chuppah. The rabbi asked him if he had the funds to cover all wedding expenses. When my father started stuttering out of shame, the rabbi clarified that according to the Torah, every father-in-law assumes responsibility for the expenses of the wedding. If he has no ability to finance the wedding, then it cannot take place.
In other words, if he doesn’t have all the required money, there won’t be a wedding! The wedding will be postponed to an unknown date!
It pains me to need to ask for help, but I have no other choice.
I’m so ashamed that my wedding will be postponed because of a lack of money. We’ve been through so much already, and I can’t imagine that I won’t be able to marry my chosson as planned! Please, dear brothers – please help us approach our wedding day with dignity! Please have pity on us so we can go to our chuppah and get married like we wish! Please kindly donate to the best of your ability so that the wedding can take place b’kavod at the original time…
I am so grateful for your help – I thank you with all my heart! I will pray for you on my wedding day that you should be zoche to have everything you need in life, and that you should never be on the receiving end.
Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.
Peri
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