Over 100 participants registered for Rabbi Manis Friedman‘s latest dating course, including bochurim, girls, parents and Shadchanim.
While originally designed as a three-part course, a fourth call was added, to address the many questions that were submitted during the course.
The classes were hosted by Rabbi Shmuly Rothman, who explained each question with clarity, while keeping it anonymous.
“Participants really like having an anonymous method for asking their questions, everything gets asked and no one has to be concerned about being shy and not being able to speak up,” said Rabbi Zalman Friedman, who organized the course.
In the following audio excerpt from the course, Rabbi Friedman explains whether it’s important to make a list of qualities you care about in a potential mate.
“Making a list is not like putting in an order with specs…it’s not a ‘menu’ that you can pick from,” he says. “But making the list shows you who you are – and it’s always good to know who you are.”
Questions are still welcome for the Q&A call that is scheduled for tonight, Monday, 26 Shvat – Jan 27.
You can join the course now and get instant access to the three recorded calls, plus an access code for the live Q&A call scheduled for Monday night.
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This is exactly my point. I see i wasnt that wrong
I agree 100% percent!! Thank you!
LOOK at the BIG picture of kiddushin (the goal of shidduchim, no?)… You’re building life (“BOnayim”) with someone – and not to sweat the small, narcissistic stuff like “Who am I?” or “Who is my spouse?” These “enlightened insights” we can never answer anyway – we’re never *always* the same person… same with our spouse… and same with our bonayim. Just get on with it – stop trying to self-protect (thereby really pushing others away… tohu). Apply your kabbalas oyl, netzach, and ahavas Yisroel. Commit, sacrifice, and LOOK to grow, contribute, and improve 🙂 Hatzlacha in doing Hashem’s will (“Be… Read more »
I was a bit older, (24,) when I got married 35 years ago….and it I would listen to your advice, I would not be married. I was not used to the looks and height of the guy…it annoyed me for a short time….and sometimes annoys me to this day…but believe me…I married the right guy. I listened to the rebbes letters where he writes that one should look at the big things, and even that the small things don’t seem right.
No such thing as the only way. Different things work with different people.
Great Advice!!! Thank YOu Rabbi Manis Freidman YOU R AMAZING.
Wish someone had told me these things a generation ago when I was dating.
Maybe $50
If anything, lists are a barrier to shiduch.
With lists, we seek yichus – and yichus becomes the focus, c’v – rather than seeing an amazing, G-d fearing person and their potential.
Hatzlacha, chesed, and Moshiach NOW!!!
DEAR RABBI FRIEDMAN, I WOULD LIKE TO SPEAK WITH YOU,
WOULD YOU BE ABLE TO GIVE ME YOUR TELEPHONE NUMBER.OR SEND ME YOUR NUMBER VIA EMAIL.
moishim@medicalstoremexico.com
i participated in this and it really opened my eyes. i very highly recommend this.
beacuse A: It’s Manis Friedman, and B: It’s interesting, BUUT
B”H I’m married and therefore have no REAL reason to spend extra money (and multiply every dollar by 3.5) on a course that I don’t NEED.
OTOH – maybe it will help me help my friends?
Any way we can get access to it at some later point?
While I’m a big fan of Rabbi Freidman I find this 10 minute segment a bit disconcerting Yes I agree with the ‘ if it annoys me ..it’s real’ line of thinking, But from my experience as a shadchan …many have gone out enough times after the ‘this annoys me terribly ‘phase to forgetting what it is that annoyed them to begin with,and going on to have beautiful marriages… So unless Rabbi F. talks about, in the rest of the audio, the signs that can be picked up if its truly the ‘annoying forever’type..or if it is the annoying type… Read more »
love it love it….on target!!! makes SO much sense!!!