Most shiduchim happen through networking and talking to others. But who should I talk to? When and where will I meet people with whom to network?
Sometimes, it is your current friends and families who help you find that shiduch. Sometimes, it is someone who you did not meet yet. Shiduchim happen from the most random conversations, so talk to anyone.
For a while, a group of us women of the shechuna – who are helping our sisters, brothers, children, neighbors, friends, or even ourselves find a shiduch – have been meeting weekly to network and are making shiduchim happen. We’re expanding now, starting with a structured networking event this Sunday evening, organized by Mrs. Chavi Katzman, Mrs. Chani Neubort, and Mrs. Tamar Stone, and members of their respective weekly Shiduch Groups. And we’re trying a new innovative approach of “small group speed-shiduch networking.”
Program details:
When: Sunday, December 20, 2015
Where: Rayim Ahuvim /Tiferes Menachem – 1614 Carroll Street (corner of Schenectady Avenue)*
8:00 PM: General networking
8:15 PM prompt Small group speed-shiduch networking
*enter from front door only
The idea is that everyone will get to share about their singles – in smaller groups, rather than a general sharing. We’ll ‘meet’ the shiduch prospects through conversation with people who really care about them, rather than listening to a profile.
In small groups, we’ll share a ‘snapshot profile’ , brief and pinpointed. And then, the others can ask focused questions to get to know them a bit better. In this way, we can keep the conversations productive and directed.
We’ll start off in small groups, and share about our singles. Then when the bell rings, we go off to our next small group and ‘meet’ other singles. And then again to another group. In the smaller group settings, we’ll get to meet new people who we can network with even after the event.
A few shadchanim will also be on hand to have a speed-shiduch conversation with you about your single. Please come prepared with a printed copy of the profile and a photo. There are a limited amount of slots, available first-come, first-serve; you must pre-register.
In order for all of us to gain the most from the evening, we ask you to preregister. Just a few questions – your name, and name, age, gender of the person you are presenting.
Join us this Sunday! You never know where a shiduch might come from!
Pre-register for the event here.
Speed dating is when a group of men and women (say 10 of each) in approximately the same age group come together at a venue of some sort. There are small 2-person tables and they rotate in an organized fashion so that each man and each woman gets to spend about 10-15 minutes together, to see if there is any interest in going on a proper date and taking things further.
I’m very new to this idea. What exactly is ” speed dating”?
I am #13 and I meant no criticism. I think is fantastic for singles who have someone to advocate for them, or who feel comfortable selling themselves. For those of us who are doing it alone, speed dating would be a great option.
I did not say these wonderful women should abandon what they are doing and set up speed dating instead. I was merely saying that I think there is a great need for it in this community. The two are not mutually exclusive.
The people organizing the event obviously want to try what’s described in the article…if you want to try speed dating maybe you should go ahead and organize it. (#12 instead of criticizing them And the system)
– chaya bortunk
We desperately need speed dating in this community, at least for the over 25s.
why not make a speed dating event for the singles? yeh, yeh. it can be controlled to be just as tzniusdik as if they were sitting at a table in a hotel lobby or wherever frum people date. oh. right. then there’s no shadchones gelt. ok, then charge an entrance fee. but really. shadchans meeting amongst themselves? really?
Single girls can attend, however regretfully, men/boys can not attend as this event is only for woman. Please feel free to give your resume to someone who can represent you at this event.
May singles attend, or is it only for those who are representing singles?
can single guys attend ?
Yes!
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Thanks for all the hard work you are all doing can’t be more grateful.
Is this affiliated with the International Shidduch Group Network?
We would love to network with other groups. Please send us your info and we will try to arrange something, iy”h.
Right now it is only for woman. If we have an interest for a men’s gathering, we can try working on it IH.
In regard to ‘out of towners’ , perhaps you can have someone attend and present your single’s resume, as you would need someone in attendance to join the networking forum.
how do we get in on this?
Is this only for woman?