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How Important is a Mechitza

A president of a synagogue in Brooklyn once wrote to the Rebbe insisting on an explanation why a Mechitza separation between men and women is needed. Full Story

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Dafka Mechitza
January 4, 2011 2:20 am

As a man, I NEED mechitza. Go try davening in a conservative or reform shul (where there’s no mechitza, and, even more distracting, there’s mixed seating) – it’s torture. Everyone’s staring at each other – there is no kavana. This is especially terrible as the men and women are exchanging looks, gestures, and greetings from all over the room. All kinds of uncomfortable thoughts and ideas are occurring. Sorry women, but then the men start to gossip, chatter, and sound like the women. On Shabbos, for example, go ask one of the conservative or reform shul congregants something about the… Read more »

Thank you
January 3, 2011 9:17 pm

B”H people are finally realizing the importance of a mechitza! A mechitza is simply not a farfrumte separation. Shulchon Oruch is there for us all.

Mechitzas at other venues
January 3, 2011 9:15 pm

This letter addresses the need for a mechitza in Shul. But what about mechitzas at other venues and events such as lectures, kiddushim and dinners? Obviously a mechitza is needed for dancing at weddings and other simchas since men and women cannot dance together. But if the main issue is to preserve the concentration and intense mood required during prayer, why is there a need for a mechitza at events which do not involve prayer?

to #12
January 3, 2011 7:09 pm

I think you are talking from your own “boich” as opposed to speaking halacha. There is no halachic concern about women viewing men while they daven. This is why many orthodox shuls have one way glass, etc. Trying to be stricter then necessary is fine for yourself but not fine when you try to put your stringencies onto me.

The Rebbe and Mechitza
January 3, 2011 6:56 pm

The Rebbe in a letter to parents who were planning a wedding for their children writes [free translation] “…When one arranges a wedding with a partition according to the stipulation of our Holy Torah the din is that we should say (in the Grace after meals) shehasimcho bimoinoi, which means that when mentioning Hashem’s name we do so in connection with simcha. This means that we should bring simcha into the world and especially to the choson and kallah. “Surely it is superfluous to write about what has happened in recent years in the world generally and particularly among Jews.… Read more »

RE: Mechitza at Sheva Brachot
January 3, 2011 6:54 pm

The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch [149;1] (based on the Bach and Beis Shmuel) rules that “Shehasimcha Bimono” שהשמחה במעונו (“in whose abode there is joy”) is not said during the benching of a sheva brochos if men and women are seated in the same room because there is no simcha when the evil inclination is active. On this basis many contemporary poskim rule that there must be a mechitza at weddings and sheva brochos.

another letter from the Rebbe about Mechitza
January 3, 2011 6:50 pm

By the Grace of G-d 20th of Tammuz, 5724 Brooklyn, N.Y. Greeting and Blessing: I received your letters of June 26th and 22nd, as well as your previous letters. . . . With regard to the wedding arrangements, I do not understand at all the logic of Mr… going to solicit the advice of a Dayan and then ignoring it and being Broiges. At any rate it is not my business to complicate relations between one Jew and another, especially as it is of no practical consequence. I am certain that the Chuppah and the wedding dinner will [be] arranged… Read more »

Who is being hidden?
January 3, 2011 5:48 pm

Quite crucial to point out that in order for a space such as the Rebbe describes to be created in the women’s section as well as the men’s section, the men should be hidden from women’s view in the same way the women should be hidden from the men’s view. In other words, the mechitza is a holy division to create two distinct spaces for prayer – one for men, one for women- in the united Shul area. In this vein, quite a number of mechitzot found in ultra-orthodox shuls should be re-assessed. Are they enabling the women to daven… Read more »

For Further Reading...
January 3, 2011 5:31 pm
Kudos
January 3, 2011 5:07 pm

Thank you for publishing this beautiful letter. There are few authors wh can express the Halachic and Hashkafic points of a situation like the Rebbe. These words are valuable, as are the sensitivity and respect with which they are written.
Yasher Koach Rabbi Simpson & the authors of COLlive,

Teshura
January 3, 2011 4:44 pm

This letter was given out by thr Rebbe secretary Rabbi Sholom Mendel Simpson in the Teshura at his grandchilds wedding about 2 months ago Thank you Rabbi Simpson we need more like this

Thank you Rebbe!!!!
January 3, 2011 4:07 pm
Mechitza at Sheva B'rachos
January 3, 2011 3:51 pm

Mechitza at Sheva B’rachos

the Rebbe brings the commentaries to the Shulchan Aruch that we may not say Shehasimcha Bim’ono (שהשמחה במעונו) during Birkat Hamazon if there is mixed seating.

Rabbi Pinchos Woolstone
January 3, 2011 3:11 pm

once again it is not only what the Rebbe says but how he expresses himself, with care and consideration coupled with clarity and unambiguity.
How fortunate are we who bask in his Holiness and love.

Respectful Tone
January 3, 2011 2:08 pm

The Rebbe is always clear and respectful and positive.
That is how we should be.

I would hope that people take heart as to the reason we come to shul, and treat our time there with the respect it deserves,

Taking the Rebbes guidance SERIOUSLY
January 3, 2011 2:02 pm

It’ s interesting that in this letter the Rebbe is addressing a president of non Chabad synagogue where the Rebbe mentions that even if there is a mechitza nonetheless
“IT MUST COMPLETLEY HIDE THE VIEW, OTHERWISE A MECHITZA DOES NOT ACCOMPLISH IT’S PURPOSE”

And yet you have shpits shluchim that have the bare minimum standard of mechitza for their CHABAD synagogues.

GOOD TO KNOW
January 3, 2011 1:54 pm

O!

Other events
January 3, 2011 1:46 pm

So according to this letter if there is a speaker there is no need for an actual Mechitza?

Thank you
January 3, 2011 12:59 pm

After the recent article about a shul that every Rav agreeed had a mechitza that was too short this is slightly refreshing

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