Elazar Gabay – Times of Israel
I was bewildered to read Rabbi Eric Yoffie’s Op-Ed in Haaretz, Chabad’s Dangerous Message of Love Without Commitment.
Rabbi Yoffie goes from praising Chabad to undermining its founding principles by insinuating they are materialistic bottom feeders.
I particularly have an issue with these two statements: Firstly, when Rabbi Yoffie says “Chabad Rabbis who come into their communities and spend most of their time cultivating a handful of very wealthy people.”
Second, when he writes, “the personal approach of Chabad to Jewish outreach—often combined with glitzy, high-profile, one-time events—has a major negative: It is built on absolutely minimal expectations. Its message seems to be: We will love you, but we won’t require anything of you”.
Nothing can be further from the truth. As a non-religious, unorthodox Chabad Chassid I embrace the “unconditional love” approach myself.
Chabad (founded in the late 18th century) predates the Reform and Conservative Jewish movements. Chabad’s roots lie in an approach to Judaism and philosophy emphasized by the words the acronym its name creates are devised from, Chochma (wisdom), Binah (understanding) and Daat (knowledge).
Chabad follows the Chassidic approach of positivity and encouragement as opposed to the “Jewish modernization” movements (Conservative and Reconstructionist but Reform in particular) which, in its early forms rejected almost all central tenets of Judaic practice, including circumcision.
Chabad Shluchim (emissaries) have been deployed to some of the most remote locations on earth (over 3,600 of them, in over 70 countries), establishing community centers in countries ranging from Norway to Nigeria. Moreover, many of these remote Chabad locations serve Jewish tourists almost exclusively, such as the Chabad in Katmandu, Nepal which hosted the world’s largest Passover Seder earlier this year. These centers, like all Chabad centers, require no entrance or annual memberships fees.
Some Chabad Rabbis share members and philanthropists with their Reform brethren but to imply that Chabad Rabbis “spend most of their time cultivating the wealthy” is an insult.
Perhaps it’s the Reform Temple’s revenue model that Rabbi Yoffie should worry about. Philanthropists and donors are free to choose whom they support. If they feel their funds are best served by Chabad, then so be it.
Dwindling revenue model aside, Rabbi Yoffie ought to better concern himself with his own Reform congregations, which have been losing members in droves (to intermarriage and assimilation among other things).
In a recent article published in The Forward by Dana Evan Kaplan, she brought to light a new point of contention in Reform Judaism: Can an applicant to Rabbinical School be married to a non-Jewish partner? She then notes that “the Reform movement is losing its Religious focus”.
Rabbi Norman Lamm, Chancellor of Yeshiva University supported this notion in 2009 when he said “We will soon say Kaddish on the Reform and Conservative movements.”
As for Chabad’s Message of Love Without Commitment, Rabbi Yoffie is correct.
“Judaism is about commitment” and Chabad embodies that commitment to Jewish life and values and leads by example.
Chabad encourages you to participate in Judaism, at your own pace, in your own way and at your convenience.
You need not pay your way through seat memberships and the ritzy galas Rabbi Yoffie would have you believe sustains the Chabad movement.
It is precisely because of this loving approach (think Luba-Vitch, the city where the movement originated, which means, “Village of Love”) that Chabad attracts and retains Jews from all backgrounds and denominations, regardless of affiliation.
While the Reform movement continues to lose its footing within Judaism as a whole, strictly serving its card-carrying, membership paying, Reform congregants – Chabad continues to serve all Jews regardless of location, affiliation, or commitment levels.
While I am not a Chabad Shliach (emissary) I would certainly recommend that Rabbi Yoffie visit my local Chabad house to experience the message of ‘Love Without Commitment’. I believe he would be inspired by the authentically joyous and loving atmosphere Chabad offers, and heck, perhaps even export some of that philosophy to the Reform movement…maybe it would help.
In both Reform and Chabad there can be both beauty and ugliness. In the larger picture, does it matter who’s on first? Doesn’t it matter more who’s in the game for the good? As for who’s in the game for ugly, they do not represent the best of either, so really I don’t find any argument or critique worthy of debate. Generalizations are not very productive, in my opinion.
So Rabbi Yoffee thinks he needs to publicize a critique. Why? It seems to me that if one is comfortable with one’s “flavor” of religion, they should realize that others can be comfortable with another flavor. It also seems to me that an intelligent person is aware that human beings represent a vast variety of reasons for their their choices. Although some of those choices might have been generated from uninformed or limited backgrounds, others have been generated from intelligent study, thought, and rich feeling. I don’t understand why Rabbi Yoffee does not seem to respect others’ decisions, especially if… Read more »
Why does Rabbi Yoffee feel that urge to comment on something he is not directly a part of? I don’t get the point. Let him be Reform. Let someone else be Chabad. No need to find fault! Diversity is normal! Be who and what speaks to you, and I see no reason to criticize another, unless that other is hurting you or someone else. And if he/she IS hurting others, then it can happen from within ANY faction! One need only check files to verify THAT! So Rabbi Yoffee, what is the reason for your need to publicize your critique… Read more »
chossid is the definition of what he really is inside. The adjectives are only describing the outside
At first I identified with the crowd of who are we to judge who’s a chossid…., but the reality is, I don’t care if he has a beard, wears tefillin… I won’t judge who’s the Rebbe’s chossid, but when you announce to the world on the www that “I’m not shoimer torah umitzvos” (that’s basically what he wrote by saying I’m unorthodox), he may be a very beloved child of Hashem and/or the Rebbe, but a chossid he isn’t. Hopefully he’ll reclaim that title.
I agree with 5 6 7 but 8 9 and 10 need understand 11 12 and 13. Enough said.
He studied in tomchei tmimim and is by definition a tomim.. your right that he may not be the frummest guy out there, but does that give you a right to call him not a chossid? Keep the focus on the article, have you nothing positive to say? Would you prefer he joins the ranks of the haters? Anyway excellent piece elozor, dont let these haters affect you!
I definitely agree with #11 #18. No-one was saying that the author isn’t a wonderful person and excelling in his religious commitment, we just have to realize לא כל הרוצה ליטול את השם יבוא ויטול. In Chabad, as far as I’ve heard from many shluchim and mashpi’im, we expect nothing from others and everything from ourselves, and yes, calling yourself a Chabad chosid means that you are ALL there (to a certain degree of course). I love this author and he is definitely doing more than I am to bring moshiach (since his challenges are obviously greater) I wouldn’t call… Read more »
who are U to tell me or anyone we are not a chossid of the Rebbe?No, there is a lot I do not do and that’s true and i do admit it.But who are u to tell me what i can call myself?I totally relate to Mr Elazar and I still am very didicated to Chabad and NO ONE can tell me what I should label myself. H’ can and the Rebbe can but def not U!!!
It’s one thing to be a nonreligious friend or sympathizer with Chabad, calling yourself a Chabad chassid is entirely different.
you are right
the title comments following the title “Chabad’s message of real love”, don’t seem to be doing it justice… on either side. SAD
Guys, before you contemplate associating yourselves with chabad in any way, shape, or form, make sure that the author of comment #11 approves…he seems to be giving out passes to only certain elite individuals. MR. 11 ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND?!?!?! DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHO MR. GABAY IS !?!?!?! #22 already said most of what I wanted to say. All I can add is you’re a plain idiot!!!
Kudos Elozor,
A fellow Montrealer
I want Yoffie to experience a kinus Hashluchim. One dose of the kinus and you “get it”. Can any senior hob nob professionals at 788 invite him?
Since when is a little Emesdikeit a non-Chassidishe trait? The fact of the matter is that being sincere is a good thing. It’s about being honest with others and being honest with yourself…..You should try it sometime. #11: Just because someone doesn’t appear to be holding where you claim you are holding… (A perfect Jew without any spiritual blemishes from what you’re saying) That doesn’t give you the right to talk about him this way. …..”You better be religious!!!” ?!?!?!?! Seriously?!?!?!?!!!! DID THAT LINE EVER WORK FOR YOU? It’s comments like yours that create “a non-religious, unorthodox Chabad Chassid” in… Read more »
Not all poor people are shleppers, please don’t call poor people that
He’s honest about his position…you should be encouraging him, not bashing him, he’s done a great job of defending chabad, kudos!
If Reform did not consider children born of Jewish fathers and non-Jewish mothers and non-halachic “converts” as Jewish their “Rabbis” wouldn’t have congregations… #8, you are upset that this “respected” reform rabbi was “bashed”? If someone does not believe that Hashem emes v’Toraso emes, and is machteh es ha’rabim (which is the case with all reform “rabbis”) just what kind of respect are they deserving of? Chadshe Feigen and his family HY”D were on the verge of being saved via Sweden, but a Swedish reform rabbi was moser and foiled the plan to save them at the last minute because… Read more »
Seriously? The question should be, Where is it not written?
Why don’t you people open up a Chasiddishe Sefer once in a while instead of finding out all your information on Chabad from some stupid “feel good” promotional magazines that you can pick up in every Chabad house these days…
the way Yoffie writes “We will love you, but we won’t require anything of you” is the chabad approach, implying that reform actually requires something of you, while reality points to the exact opposite.
A Jewish persons commitment is to G-d, not Chabad. Others (Reform), may not really understand this. Chabad is just a middleman, and we don’t charge for it.
Where is that written?
Seriously, I never knew that rich people have to put in Tefillin, eat Kosher or study Torah, I thought that’s only for poor schleppers, how dare the Shluchim spend time on rich people trying to coerce them to be Jewish and do a Mitzva, Eric Yofee is 300% right, rich guys belong in reform temple dinner dances and should never be disturbed with this Yidishkeit nonsense…..
Are you guys serious? Is there any prohibition for a Frum Jew or a Shliach for that matter to meet rich people?
what an outright lie you write:
“what makes a chabad shliach considered successful is how many big balai batim he has; how many rich people he brings to the kinus”
Interesting enough I had issue with both topics mentioned; that of wealthy patrons and of unconditional love. The wealthy: The Great Rabbi Akiva, the staple of the ba’al teshuvah, was once asked why he honored the rich. He responded that the rich are to be honored as they have been given the opportunity by Hashem to provide for others. They are the custodians of material wealth and this is due to their piousness and ability to withstand its temptations. Conversely, when this status is abused, the wealth is lost. Thus it is no wonder Shluchim flock to the wealthy for… Read more »
“a non-religious, unorthodox Chabad Chassid”?!?!?
Shame on you! Contrary to popular opinion, Chabad does NOT encourage complacency.
If you wanna call yourself Chabad Chassid, you’d better either become religious and orthodox or at least make efforts to head in that direction…
Part of our time is cultivating rich people – our Chabad house needs to cover the bill and we have donors that step up to the plate. Without their generosity how can we grow. We are there for every Jew but in order to cultivate and be there for our community we need the support of our balabatim. Its part of our shlichus – these balabatim are become more involved in yidishkeit – tefillin, torah learning & more.
Finish reading the article. I was also puzzled at first but at the end he mentions his own local Chabad house. He goes to Chabad, and on some level considers himself a Chossid, albeit that for whatever reasons he isn’t personally frum (yet). That was the whole point of his piece: nonjudgmental and unconditional love, the exact opposite of what Yoffie is saying. If anything, this is the best kind of rebuttal that there can be to Yoffies article. It’s coming from someone who sees what goes on but isn’t personally adhering to the standards of Yiddishkeit that the Shluchim… Read more »
Your article is condesending. I love how it’s considered taboo to bash chabad but you are bashing a respected Rabbi and his movement. Secondly, you did not negate the fact that many chabad rabbis do in fact spend their majority of time cultivating the rich. Nor did you negate the fact that what makes a chabad shliach considered successful is how many big balai batim he has; how many rich people he brings to the kinus.
how appropriate that you write whats on your heart ,so eloquently,when someone insults YOUR LUBAVITCH.
today on pesaah sheni-S’iz keinmol nit farfallen.Elazar, we love and miss you!!
Elazar Gabay writes well. Thanks for the reply as it is spot on.
Just to add that Chabad families sacrifice living together with extended family. They move far or near to help build jewish communities, and even if there is no jewish school for them, they create them.
Also young couples are dedicating themselves while at the same time having large families and building the future leaders in the world- this is not an easy task.
just wawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwee AMAZING ARTICLE
LAZAR U ARE THE BEST 🙂
the article written by that jealous fraudster is pretty obvious.
However let us not fool ourselves that plenty of improvement isn’t necessary within.
SO PROUD OF YOU!
Not the first (or last) time Eric Yoffie bashes Chabad, glad someone put him in his place!
the author only proves Yoffie’s point.
“As a non-religious, unorthodox Chabad Chassid…” what does that mean?